Have A Goal In Mind
Hoehn says that when “you’re wishy about [your goal], that’s when you get into trouble.” Not knowing what you want when you dive into a sea of virtual, (hopefully) smiling faces can be intimidating. Hoehn stresses you be proactive in your search. “When you have no idea what you want, it’s hard to find something that you want,” she tells us. The road might get a little rocky and overwhelming, or the dates just don’t work out, but don’t let it discourage you. Just because you’re wary of Tinder being an app only for casual hook-ups doesn’t necessarily mean that’s all you’ll find. Though many services get a reputation for a reason, “There are all sorts of people looking for all sorts of relationships on every site and app,” Hoehn reminds us. This brings up the whole communicating what you want conversation, which we’ll get to in a second because before you can even do that, your potential date has to dig your…
Profile Pictures: What To Avoid & What To Abide By
“Your pictures as a whole should paint a picture of your life, interests, and hobbies,” Hoehn explains. “You want your match to be able to get a sense of who you are without having to read your profile.” (They’ll hopefully read your profile, but—sigh—you know, there are some people who don’t.) With that said, Hoehn strongly suggests avoiding photos that are “dark, grainy, blurry, or awkwardly cropped” because they cloud your prospective date’s ability to read you. (They also, depending on your age, “can be a red flag that your life is as lackluster as your images or that you’re camera shy/insecure.") Think of your profile photo and the pictures that follow as the ice breaker. Hoehn advises steering clear of group shots, selfies, and party shots; professional headshots and photos taken with a flash are also things to consider avoiding. If your face is clearly shown and you look your best, consider that ice broken.