I hear you’re getting asked about your diet all the time. "What are you eating? What aren’t you eating? How much are you eating? How long are you eating it for? What are your calories?" But forget all that—what's the meal you love to eat when there are no rules?
After every fight, it’s really important that I just have a big mound of hot wings in front of me. It’s like my obsession. I’ve had points where they didn’t get me the right hot wings after a fight and I cried. Literally tears because I look forward to it for so long and I’m so perfect on my diet and I’m like I can’t wait to beat this chick and just have a plate of hot wings and a side of beer. That’s all I want in the world.
Your quote about "Do Nothing Bitches" hit a note with our readers. Do you have any advice about how girls can avoid becoming "do nothing bitches"? Also, are there are any days where you just feel like a “do nothing bitch”?
The way I was brought up... We lost my dad at a very young age and my mom had three of us. She had three jobs in the meantime to be able to take care of all of us and I respect her so much for being capable of all of that. I think that being able to see that and know what my mother was capable of, I had so much respect for her. And she had such huge reasons to respect herself. For a woman to be ambitious and find reasons and ways to respect herself, and have things to be proud of and not be proud of a guy that she’s landed… I think that should be encouraged in women: to want to accomplish something in their lives.
I’ve almost seen a bit of the opposite happening. The feminist movement was going one way for so long and it seemed like we were taking a couple of steps backwards for a little bit. I started hearing "How are you ever going to find a husband, if you’re such an intimidating person," "You’re so accomplished, no man is going to want to deal with that." I’m like, "Why would I want to find a man that is so easily intimidated? There are many other intimidating things in life than me. If I’m too much for you, then life’s going to be too much for us."
The end goal isn’t finding the wealthiest man possible to take care of me—it’s finding someone who will bring the best out of me. I want to find someone who has hustle to match my own and someone who we can bring the best out in each other. It’s so easy to jump out of bed and want to go handle everything in the day after the person waking up next to you is so excited to handle everything they have going on. But it’s hard to feel good about yourself sitting on the couch all day playing Madden if your girl is getting up and hustling. I don’t want a guy that feels the need to dim my light in order to make his look brighter and I’m tired of seeing girls encouraged to be as dim a light as possible so as not to obscure their man. You should both rev it up.
I would like to have a partner in my endeavors instead of being a cheerleader for someone else’s and I’m tired of seeing that being portrayed as a bad thing. Trying to gain your own respect instead of living through somebody else’s is not a bad thing and I think it should be encouraged.
This is something that I talk about with my girlfriends all the time. We’re all so hard working we’re all so independent, but finding that man has been really hard. Has it been hard for you? Is it hard for you? How do you deal with that? How do you stay strong and not give up on love?
I just don’t have it in me to give up on anything, I think. I don’t depend on a man to make me happy. That’s not the key to my happiness. It’s an amazing plus when it’s right, and I’m not in a rush to find that. I think that it will find me—and I’m not weeping away the days until then. I’m so excited to see who that person is going to be. How exciting and awesome is it going to be to find someone who is just as excited to take over the world as I am? I really can’t wait.