If you were at all near the internet this weekend, you may have noticed everyone and their mom sharing a Modern Love essay about a woman and her date who decided to test out a psychology study that explores whether or not you can intentionally fall in love. The methodology? Asking each other a set of 36 questions and then staring into one another’s eyes for four minutes.
It worked for the author, which prompted us all to wonder: What are these questions, and how can we get our love-starved paws on them?
Shout out to Jezebel for alerting us to the fact that the questions from the study have been posted, in full, on the New York Times website. We’ve listed the first set below. Check them out and then head to the NYT to read the rest. Afterwards, grab your Tinder date and prepare for one serious Q&A sesh.
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?