A couple months ago, I traveled to Dorset, England, to participate in a conscious sexuality festival. I had never heard of the term before going. I had no idea what I was getting myself into. All I knew was what I gleaned from the website, which mentioned yoga, meditation, and a sauna, all set against the classic rolling hills of the English countryside. I can hear you exhale a sigh from here. Sounds enticing, doesn’t it? Turns out, it’s not that relaxing.
What I learned in my week there is that conscious sexuality has much less to do with actual sex and much more to do with learning how to be present and figuring your own damn self out. I took workshops in everything from eye-gazing (seriously, try this) to how to hug properly, realizing along the way that even if you think you have your life sorted, there’s still room to grow and discover what it actually means to be a human. So, if you were looking for explicit sexy time advice, sorry to bust your bubble. There are no illicit bedroom tips here. This is all about how to be present with yourself so you, in turn, can be present with someone else. And, truth be told, that’s the best kind of sex advice there is. While learning mindfulness is a lifelong journey, below are five simple steps you can take to easily begin.