Consider Capricorn’s heart the toughest nut to crack in the zodiac. To say that winning this practical, status-conscious sign’s favor would be an irresponsible understatement—you truly need the patience of a saint to match Capricorn’s speed when it comes to getting to know them and wriggling into their pleasure place. Ruled by serious Saturn, the planet governing hard work, maturity, and obligation to one’s duties, Capricorn rarely has time for chasing after love or entertaining any ideas of romance. That is unless there’s a tangible payoff from a personal alliance. Although these signs are honest, realistic to a fault, and incredibly pragmatic, some certainly have a slightly snobbish side leading them to be something of a social climber. Capricorn prefers power over pleasure, so they’ve got to be sure that you’re going to enhance their standing or image, and will never, ever get in the way of their professional aspirations. This studious, diligent sign is attracted to anyone whose ambition and dedication to working hard for their goals (not to mention the money) can match their own. Still, there’s a lot more to the seemingly conservative Seagoat than meets the eye; should you bed this physically obsessive earth sign, you might find that they’re quite a bit freakier than you expected when it comes to pleasures of the flesh, though they’ll, of course, expect you to keep that on the down-low. (Just look at Capricorn Alexander Hamilton, one of the most prolific and industrious founders of the United States—and also the politician to become entangled in America’s first salacious sex scandal.) Ahead, a complete guide to navigating the often cold waters of love, sex, and life with Capricorn, the earthy, responsible 10th sign of the zodiac.
Dating & Hooking-Up: The Capricorn Approach
If you’ve succeeded in getting a date with Capricorn, consider yourself lucky—in fact, you might want to go buy some lottery tickets while you’re at it. Industrious, efficient Cap-born people can rarely be found circulating for the sake of fun, and are much more comfortable with their hard noses glued to a book, a spreadsheet, or some other form of work. Serious Capricorn might even seem a little standoffish, unattainable, or intimidating at first. The only time you can truly count on Capricorn to be out and about is when there’s something in it for them in the long-haul. Earthy Seagoats are completely preoccupied with funneling every second of their time into setting a concrete foundation for their future, whether that be through social climbing or rubbing elbows with influencers in their professional field or industry. It’s not uncommon for Capricorn to dip their pen in the company’s ink, so to speak, often finding lasting love (or at least a good roll in the hay) at the office or through networking and their work.
On the other hand, Capricorns are also the most tenacious sign of the 12 and the least likely to give up. So, if you’ve caught a Cap’s eye, buckle up! You’ve unwittingly entered into a carefully calculated hunt with the zodiac’s most persevering sign who won’t give up at the first steep hurdle. Actually, you’re better off being direct with Capricorn if you’re not interested and telling them so in no uncertain terms; this sign is known to become annoying in the face of adversity as an unshakable admirer. But Capricorn will usually become gentle once turned down for fear of tarnishing their reputation. Capricorn, like their earth-sign sibling Virgo, is very easily embarrassed and will avoid negative attention or humiliation at all costs.
Since Capricorn is ruled by Saturn, the planet of karma and law, Seagoats will always weigh the consequences and the return of their investments before committing to anything—including you. In love, this typically translates to a cautious, slow-and-steady route. Capricorns like to draw out the dating process and get to know everything about their companion thoroughly before taking any relationship to the next level. Dignified traditionalists, Capricorns will generously plan a fabulous date—usually at a classy, top-notch spot with a cultural or historical pedigree—and won’t hesitate to open their wallet to impress you. (Although, should the date turn sour or disappoint them somehow, they won’t be above garishly griping about prices and spending. Gag.) But again, because of Capricorn’s extreme self-consciousness, these signs are unlikely to risk doing anything super-obnoxious that might draw attention to themselves negatively.
Capricorn is just simply not comfortable with putting in any kind of effort if they cannot be concretely confident in a tangible outcome, meaning Capricorns who do remove themselves from work for love will likely fall into serial monogamy over burn-and-turn dating. Conversely, many Capricorns will happily adopt patterns of casual sex and hook-ups as a means to relieve their simmering stress levels from a hectic work life over pursuing long-term relationships. For many Capricorns, relationships and romance are quite low on their priority list, preferring to establish themselves in the world professionally and financially before taking on serious partnership.
Emotionally, this sign is incredibly reserved and tight-lipped, preferring to show their affections through actions than words. If your fire is lit by romanticism and indulgence of exciting fantasy, Capricorn is not the one for you. This sign’s pragmatism makes them an honest, loyal, and tremendously reliable partner, so if you’ve been let down by players and runners of hot game, the Seagoat is right up your alley, albeit a little less thrilling. Capricorn is dynamic and proactive, driven by the material side of life—especially when it comes to career aspirations and wealth—and will seek out a partner with similar values. Their dream is to be a part of a power couple, so you must be useful to enhancing their status if you’re going to be considered a serious match.
Once Capricorn is confident of your value to them (yes, it can be as harsh as that sounds), they’ll work long and hard to make a relationship successful. These signs are absolutely patient and famous for their long-term staying power and dependability. The Capricorn-born carry a core strength of intuitively knowing that no path to genuine happiness is an easy or smooth one, giving them the prescience of mind to view relationship difficulties and setbacks as necessary challenges in the evolution of love. Capricorns famously seem to get better (and more attractive!) as they age, and their relationships tend to follow that philosophy, as well.
Driven By Desire: What Capricorn Wants
Capricorn might not place the highest priority on love and relationships, but they unequivocally know what they want when they do reach a point where they can focus on finding a partner, if they want one. The most valued quality a Capricorn seeks in their other half is ferocious drive and ambition that matches their own. Not only will you be a fantastic partner in crime at networking events and professional galas, you’ll also have a life (and, hopefully, a bank account) of your own to focus on, instead of becoming overly clingy or hinged to Capricorn in some unhealthy way. Caps need to be 100-percent certain that you will not become a liability or a detriment to their productivity and progress; Seagoats, after all, are on their own track most of the time.
The 10th sign of the zodiac is so goals-driven, they tend to choose those who will help them achieve them, or at least move up a rung on the social ladder. Fun and pleasure just aren't enough in Capricorn’s mind to keep anyone around—even for a night! Capricorns are intensely picky and seek substance of the highest quality in their companions and lovers. Laid-back slackers need not apply: What turns Capricorn on is someone who can hold their own, just like them, so they seek out true powerhouses of industry and business. A Cap simply would not dream of going for someone content to stick it out on the sidelines. Even if your position or life goals are vastly different than Capricorn’s, they expect you to crush anything you set your sights on with intelligence, well-planned strategy, and intense drive. Now, that’s the way to turn on a Capricorn.
Capricorn’s standards are sky-high, which makes them attracted to slightly unattainable types. These signs are unenthused by those who throw themselves at anyone for a good time freely, preferring someone who’s as picky and hard to please as they are. They do love the chase, especially when the object of their affection is prudent in love and hold your own high standards of romantic fulfillment. Capricorn-born people tend to be conservative in their views, making them lovers of tradition and history. These earthy Seagoats are immediately drawn to those with powerful social prowess and love interests who are obviously concerned with a public image and status symbols. Brand is everything for Cap and if you can prove that you care about making a shining impression to the world at large, you’re bound to score some serious points with self-conscious Capricorn.
Each person’s individual astrological makeup can be found in their natal chart, which outlines the positions and aspects of the planets, houses, and signs in the heavens at the exact moment and location of your birth. Everyone on Earth possesses a personality that’s comprised of all 12 zodiac signs, which makes your sun sign (or “native” sign) less important when looking at the bigger picture. But statistics don’t lie when it comes to how astrology can strengthen interpersonal chemistry. Astrologers look to several factors in determining who you’re compatible—or mismatched—with, including your sun sign, rising sign, and where Venus places in the chart, among many other things.
Natives born when the Sun was in Capricorn, roughly between December 21 and January 19, along with anyone who has Capricorn as their “ascendant” or rising sign like to keep things nice and predictable. Capricorns tend to behave like their season (in the Northern Hemisphere, at least), adopting a frozen-earth strategy to letting people in, preferring signs that are as grounded, unemotional, and well-rooted as they are. Fellow earth signs like Virgo, Taurus, and other Capricorns have the best luck with connecting to this sign since they share the same values and outlook on life, and especially money. Though emotionally open, the water signs (Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces) are considered wonderfully compatible, too, with special emphasis on motherly Cancer, Capricorn’s polar-opposite sign who provides a safe space for Seagoats to express themselves emotionally.
How to Lose a Capricorn: Turn-Offs
Stubborn Capricorns are hard to win over and unbelievably easy to drive away. Infamously picky, even more so than Virgo—but less neurotic about the choosing—the Capricorn-born will not settle for less when it comes to where they invest their time and hard-earned emotions. Missteps in love seem to humiliate conservative, self-conscious Seagoats, so they simply won’t take any risks if you simply breathe in a way that might suggest to them that you are subpar to their standards. Harsh, but this is actually one of Capricorn’s greatest strengths in self-preservation; the 10th sign is an excellent partner—if you can land them—because they typically will make sure they are set up in all areas of life before settling down.
Capricorns are detail-oriented and possess a shrewd eye: Don’t ever think you’re smarter than they are, especially when it comes to trickery with luxury-brand knockoffs or fake gemstones. This sign, along with fashion-focused Libra, will absolutely notice and be nothing less than disgusted at your sartorial dishonesty and cheapness. In the Seagoat’s mind, if you’re going to do something showy, at least do it right. What’s more, if your good sense can’t tell the difference between a faux Chanel and the genuine article, you’re out.
Speaking of sartorial sensibilities, showing up sloppily dressed, unclean, or disheveled in any way will put a huge blotch on your standing with Cap. Appearances and public impressions are literally everything to Capricorn, and if you can’t show up to a casual date looking tidy as a pin for a Seagoat, how on earth are you going to present yourself if you meet their family, close friends, or most importantly, bosses and colleagues? Dress to impress with this sign, but also make sure that your home, car, and personal accouterments (like your handbag and wallet, for example) are well organized and clean. Nothing gets past Capricorn, and a messy personal space or attachee could signal poor common sense to Caps.
Always present your best self and make the most effort with Capricorn. Nothing is more grating to this sign’s mind and soul than someone who doesn’t operate at full capacity. Likewise, those who aren’t mindful of their money are considered by Capricorn to be categorically incompatible. Financial irresponsibility, wastefulness, and frivolity are massive turn-offs for this sign, who values security and dependability above all else. Complaining about spending money on your Capricorn date is sure to drive them away, as is groaning about how little they spend on you. Don’t go there—traditional Capricorn is conservative in this way and considers their money a personal, private matter.
Moving too fast, being coercive, or pushy is a huge no-no—with everyone!—but Capricorn will be gone before you know it if you place any kind of pressure on this stubborn, steadfast sign. Seagoats are methodological and prefer to take the lead in going at their own pace. The only thing you’ll succeed in is frustrating them—and you. Wild displays of emotion or being too quick to share your innermost feelings will absolutely make tight-lipped Capricorn super uncomfortable, too. If you behave obnoxiously, are loud, brash, or overly concerned with attention, you can bet Capricorn won’t see you again. The Capricorn-born care about what others think, and if it seems like you might tarnish their image, they’ll be gone faster than you can split the check.
Getting Down: Sex with Capricorn
Structure-loving Seagoats sometimes let their methodological, detail-focused ways derail their sexual exploits, but this seemingly buttoned-up, boring sign is anything but in the boudoir. Adventure and spontaneity are not Capricorn’s strengths, but if there is some kind of strategy to plan a spontaneous romp (sounds counter-intuitive, doesn’t it?), they’ll figure it out. Capricorn’s sexuality is incredibly physical, thanks to being an earth sign. Like their sister signs Taurus and Virgo, Capricorn responds to touch more than most. Sexual expression for Capricorn is a surprising blend of erotic chaos and organization. As a lover, the Seagoat is turned on by planning things out but will always throw in a dash of sexy creativity if they’re feeling the heat in just the right way.
Since stress seems to follow workaholic Capricorn around, sex is a huge pressure release for this sign. Capricorn hardly cracks a smile on the street but in the sheets, they’re known to be humorous, giggly, and enjoy laughter mixed in with their banging. Many astrologers consider this a tactic to ease tension and nervousness since this serious, Saturn-ruled sign is typically very shy. Overall, the bedroom needs to be a stress-free space of free expression and mutual pleasure for these tightly wound signs who are surprisingly in touch with their own physicality and sex appeal, despite their conservative nature. Uncomplicated beasts, Capricorn isn’t incredibly into adding toys or frilly things to the bedroom. Their sex is earthy and straightforward, sometimes lacking in romance and sentimentality.
Sometimes Capricorn will surprise you in sex, becoming as aggressive and dominant in asking for what they want in the erotic realm as they are in their profession. The Seagoat’s take-charge nature also makes them excellent dominant partners. Observant Capricorn tends to get into a sexual rut, though: If one move produces a pleasurable result, they’ll do it again—and again, and again, ad nauseum. Capricorn appreciates honesty in their lovemaking, so don’t be hesitant to gently let them know you need to change things up if they become stagnant. But Capricorn isn’t a selfish or quick lover, usually possessing unbelievable, even animalistic stamina. And although some Capricorns have a bad rep for sleeping their way to the top or using sex as a weapon in their own advancement, private Capricorn can be counted on to never kiss and tell—and expects the same discretion from their partners.
Friends & Enemies
Capricorn isn’t known for making friends easily, and they certainly aren’t going to blur the lines between love and friendship. These signs are masterful compartmentalized, meaning that love interests stay in that box, rarely transferring over into lasting friendship. The opposite is also true, as Capricorn would rather not take a risk turning a good friend into a lover. Why? Capricorn doesn’t like to keep many friends, cherishing their genuine platonic connections in a very closed, tightly knit circle.
Seagoats will only keep those around who are honest, loyal, and honor tradition as much as they do. Similar to their romantic preferences, Capricorn is most attracted to forming friendships that can give them a leg-up in their career or social standing. Likewise, Cap-born folks will reject those who pose a threat to their image, social standing, or career aspirations. If you can prove yourself useful to Capricorn, you’re as good as gold and can expect to be treated as family.
Scorned Seagoats are scorchingly unforgiving and unlikely to let anyone who’s crossed them back into their private lives. Second chances are scarce with this sign, but Capricorns aren’t the type to lash out or take vengeance. They’re far too concerned with protecting their reputation and won’t risk making a scene or tarnishing their image. Instead, they’ll grow cold—but remain polite and vanilla in their friendliness—and back away slowly. It takes a lot for Cap to burn a bridge.
Relationships & Commitment
If you can land a Capricorn as a committed partner, consider yourselves not just lucky, but incredibly safe. Capricorns take their commitments super seriously and won’t give up on you or the relationship at the first sign of trouble. These signs are very smart and very calculating, preferring to take the long, steady route to establishing something real that will stand the test of time. Capricorn knows that compatibility between two souls isn’t typically an instant spark—so they’re unafraid to work hard on their relationships. Realistic and pragmatic to their bones, Seagoats know that no one is perfect and will find ways to make your relationship work if they’re confident you’re someone they want to hold fast to.
Capricorn is unemotive but always dependable and will assume the role of your “rock” when times get tough, for your mutual benefit. Capricorns are excellent providers and solid partners, though you may have to sacrifice quality time and heady romance so that these meticulous beasts can focus on their work. Cap’s career and earning potential will always come first when it comes to their time, though in their hearts their toiling for a better life will be a divine expression of their love and devotion.
Capricorns take their duties seriously, so if you cohabitate you can certainly rely on them to carry their weight equally, if not more so than you. That same philosophy is applied to Cap’d financial contributions to any union, as these folks often become the main breadwinner. Capricorn is an awesome partner to have when it comes to sorting everyday things out, organizing life, and keeping a sense of sanity in your domestic life. However, these personalities might struggle with bringing their work home or becoming overly stressed out due to their ironclad work ethic. If you can work together to ensure that the home is a stress- and pressure-free bastion away from work, the benefits to you both will be tenfold. Exactly why Cancer the Crab makes such an amazing pairing for Capricorn!
As a parent, you can expect Cap to do whatever it takes to ensure your brood is held together, particularly when it comes to financial stability. Capricorn parents are obsessed with giving their kids the best, even becoming a teensy bit preoccupied with name brands and hoity-toity school legacies. You can rest assured that your children will always have what they need to solidify their place in the future with a solid work ethic. Capricorn loves tradition and will relish passing down old values and new routines, as well as studying family lineage and heritage. Celebrating your roots will be a family affair, often staying close to their own parents, grandparents, and extended family. Truly, legacy won’t be lacking—nor will security—with a partner or co-parent like Capricorn. Though, those born under this sign might want to lighten up a bit to ensure everyone in their tribe is not only well taken care of, but also genuinely happy.